ecological fitness

My brother in law (Andrew) and I had a nice time carrying beams up to the house and thinking about fitness, especially as it applies to this type of activity. Five kids under five were running around on the deck and playing, swinging on the apple tree and generally having a five under five type of time. So we are having our heady conversation when two short people poke their heads around the corner and ask what we are doing. "Staking these beams" I tell them" At that moment I realized an opportunity in line with the type of fitness I'm trying to describe. As expected they asked to help. My first thought was, this is going to slow me down, my second was how funny I am. I said sure, you can help, nodding to Andrew, both of us thinking how enlightened we were becoming. Letting go of ideas like mass and time and integrating community, teaching and quality into the concept of fitness. I told them the two to follow me and we could move a long 2x8 tongue and groove fir floor board. They followed, down the slope and over the hand dug stairs. I picked up on end of the board, "you two get this end" I looked up. I saw two backs and a cowlick disappearing back around the stack of lumber. "we don't want to actually" There is another type of flexibility, one that promotes an interest, that emphasizes what is important, but that at the same time recognizes the constructed meaning in all of our actions. I didn't need them to help, and perhaps they new this.
A half an hour latter one of them was back, this time with another friend, a girl and my cousins daughter. They too asked what we were doing and again, we told them we were heading down to the bridge to get more lumber. Would you like to come and help I asked. They nodded and began the trek down the trail. We walked more slowly, Andrew and I slightly quieter, a bit less pontificating. At the bottom I picked out two nice pieces of firewood for them to carry. " Bring this to Adeline's grandma's house OK" They made off, really quit proud of helping. I'll show you were to go I heard the girl tell the little boy as they passed above us on the trail.